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Helpful resources

Crisis lines, organizations, articles, and books — for when you need more than a module. Everything listed here is free unless noted.

If you need help right now

Crisis & mental health lines

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

Call or text 988

Free, confidential, 24/7. For anyone in emotional distress or suicidal crisis.

Crisis Text Line

Text HOME to 741741

Free 24/7 crisis support via text message. No phone call required.

SAMHSA Helpline

1-800-662-4357

Free, confidential, 24/7. Substance use and mental health referrals.

SMART Recovery

smartrecovery.org

Science-based recovery support groups — online and in-person, free.

Free worksheets & self-reflection tools

13 clinical tools adapted for self-directed educational use. Enter your email to receive the PDF delivered to your inbox. Educational tools only — not therapy.

Category 1 — Self-Assessment
Worksheet 1 — Self-Assessment
Pattern Awareness Worksheet
Pairs with Module 1 & 3
Self-observationTriggers4 pages
Map the who, what, when, and where of urges — so you can see the pattern clearly enough to work with it.
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Worksheet 2 — Self-Assessment
Urge Tracker — 7-Day Log
Pairs with Module 3
Real-time loggingPattern data4 pages
Log urges in real time across 7 days. Patterns emerge by the end of the week.
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Worksheet 3 — Self-Assessment
Is Change Worth It?
Pairs with Module 1
Loss chartDecisional balance4 pages
An honest look at what compulsive porn use has cost — and a clear-eyed weighing of what change would give and take.
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Category 2 — CBT / Thought Work
Worksheet 4 — CBT / Thought Work
Core Beliefs Exercise
Pairs with Module 2
Core beliefsShame4 pages
Notice the deeply held beliefs that quietly drive compulsive behavior — and begin to examine whether they hold up.
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Worksheet 5 — CBT / Thought Work
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
Pairs with Module 2
Cognitive distortionsThinking patterns4 pages
Eight automatic thinking patterns that amplify shame and make change feel harder than it is.
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Worksheet 6 — CBT / Thought Work
Catching Your Thoughts
Pairs with Module 2
Thought recordCBT tool5 pages
Track the connection between situations, thoughts, and emotions — so you can begin to respond rather than react.
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Category 3 — Behavioral Tools
Worksheet 7 — Behavioral Tools
How It Happens — Mapping the Chain
Pairs with Module 3 & 5
Behavioral chainPattern analysis5 pages
Trace the full sequence from early trigger to behavior — so you can see where different choices become possible.
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Worksheet 8 — Behavioral Tools
Trigger Identification Map
Pairs with Module 3
Four trigger categoriesPattern mapping5 pages
Map emotional, situational, relational, and physical triggers with intensity ratings and analysis questions.
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Worksheet 9 — Behavioral Tools
My Environment Audit + If-Then Plan
Pairs with Module 5
Environment designIf-then planning5 pages
A 16-item environment audit and a pre-committed if-then plan for high-risk moments — built before you need it.
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Category 4 — Relapse and Recovery
Worksheet 10 — Relapse and Recovery
When You Slip — A Response Kit
Pairs with Module 6
Protocol cardSlip log5 pages
A six-step response protocol for the immediate aftermath of a slip — plus a running log for capturing what slips reveal.
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Worksheet 11 — Relapse and Recovery
Personal Relapse Plan
Pairs with Module 6
Relapse planningAccountability4 pages
Written in a calm moment — before you need it — for exactly the moments when calm thinking is hardest to access.
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Category 5 — Values and Growth
Worksheet 12 — Values and Growth
Values Clarification Worksheet
Pairs with Module 8
ACT toolValues4 pages
Identify what genuinely matters to you — and notice where your behavior and your values are or are not aligned.
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Worksheet 13 — Values and Growth
The Life I'm Building
Pairs with Module 8
Life planFive domains6 pages
Describe the life recovery is in service of — across relationships, purpose, body, play, and growth.
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These worksheets are companion tools to the Honestly Grounded program. Start Module 1 free to access the full interactive versions built into the 8-module curriculum.

Organizations & support groups

Organization

Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA)

A 12-step fellowship for people whose sexual behavior has become compulsive. In-person and online meetings worldwide.

saa.org
Organization

Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)

Twelve-step program for those struggling with sex and love addiction. Strong online meeting community.

slaafws.org
Organization

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)

A 12-step program with a clear sobriety definition. Strong international community and structured step work.

sa.org
Organization

Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH)

Professional organization for clinicians treating compulsive sexual behavior. Includes a therapist directory.

sash.net
Organization

Fight the New Drug

Research-based education on the effects of pornography. Not religious — focused on science and personal stories.

fightthenewdrug.org
Organization

Covenant Eyes

Accountability and filtering software for managing device access. Works across phone, tablet, and computer.

covenanteyes.com

Articles & educational reading

Article

What Viewing Porn Does to Your Brain

A clear, non-judgmental overview of the neurological research behind compulsive porn use — how dopamine, habituation, and reward pathways are affected.

canopy.us
Article

Shame vs. Guilt — Brené Brown

The research behind why shame is destructive and guilt is productive — and why the distinction between "I am bad" and "I did something bad" changes everything in recovery.

brenebrown.com
Article

Urge Surfing: How Riding the Wave Breaks Bad Habits

A thorough, accessible explanation of how urge surfing works, where it came from, and why observing rather than fighting an urge reduces its power over time.

positivepsychology.com
Article

Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder — WHO ICD-11

The World Health Organization's spotlight on ICD-11, which officially reclassified compulsive sexual behavior as a recognized disorder — what it means clinically and why it matters.

who.int

Recommended books

Book

Out of the Shadows — Patrick Carnes

The foundational text on sexual addiction — accessible, non-shaming, and still one of the most widely used in treatment.

Book

Chasing the Scream — Johann Hari

An investigation into addiction that reframes it as a problem of disconnection rather than weakness — compelling and research-grounded.

Book

The Shame Riptide — Paldrom & George Collins

A practical guide specifically for porn addiction recovery that addresses shame directly as a clinical and personal obstacle.

Book

Unwanted — Jay Stringer

Explores the underlying emotional and relational dynamics that drive unwanted sexual behavior — integrative and compassionate.

Book

Self-Compassion — Kristin Neff

The research-backed case for treating yourself with the same compassion you'd offer a friend — directly relevant to shame-based recovery.

Book

Atomic Habits — James Clear

The clearest practical guide to environment design, habit replacement, and identity-based change — directly applicable to recovery.

A note on these resources: Honestly Grounded does not have a financial relationship with any organization, book, or tool listed here. They are included because they are clinically credible and genuinely useful. Links open external sites — Honestly Grounded is not responsible for their content. If you are in crisis right now, please call or text 988, or text HOME to 741741.